Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Matthew Arnold....

Today in my English 313 class we discussed this poem by Matthew Arnold. Its lyrics really resonated with me. Arnold is writing about how he desires to make a deep connection with someone. He writes that there is something about life that has no answer and he desires to get to know someone else on a level in which they can at least discuss this depth. I feel that way sometimes, actually, all the time. I think that everyone does. Isn't that what we're searching for? Someone to connect on a deeper, more intimate level? Someone who you can talk to about things that really matter. Arnold starts the poem by addressing his lover- and it is no wonder that this is who he's talking to. Lovers are those who know us on the deepest, most intimate level. I could say so much about this poem. But here, interpret yourself and leave your comments below...

The Buried Life- Matthew Arnold
Light flows our war of mocking words, and yet,
Behold, with tears mine eyes are wet!
I feel a nameless sadness o'er me roll.
Yes, yes, we know that we can jest,
We know, we know that we can smile!
But there's a something in this breast,
To which thy light words bring no rest,
And thy gay smiles no anodyne.
Give me thy hand, and hush awhile,
And turn those limpid eyes on mine,
And let me read there, love! thy inmost soul.

Alas! is even love too weak
To unlock the heart, and let it speak?
Are even lovers powerless to reveal
To one another what indeed they feel?
I knew the mass of men conceal'd
Their thoughts, for fear that if reveal'd
They would by other men be met
With blank indifference, or with blame reproved;
I knew they lived and moved
Trick'd in disguises, alien to the rest
Of men, and alien to themselves--and yet
The same heart beats in every human breast!

But we, my love!--doth a like spell benumb
Our hearts, our voices?--must we too be dumb?

Ah! well for us, if even we,
Even for a moment, can get free
Our heart, and have our lips unchain'd;
For that which seals them hath been deep-ordain'd!

Fate, which foresaw
How frivolous a baby man would be--
By what distractions he would be possess'd,
How he would pour himself in every strife,
And well-nigh change his own identity--
That it might keep from his capricious play
His genuine self, and force him to obey
Even in his own despite his being's law,
Bade through the deep recesses of our breast
The unregarded river of our life
Pursue with indiscernible flow its way;
And that we should not see
The buried stream, and seem to be
Eddying at large in blind uncertainty,
Though driving on with it eternally.

But often, in the world's most crowded streets,
But often, in the din of strife,
There rises an unspeakable desire
After the knowledge of our buried life;
A thirst to spend our fire and restless force
In tracking out our true, original course;
A longing to inquire
Into the mystery of this heart which beats
So wild, so deep in us--to know
Whence our lives come and where they go.
And many a man in his own breast then delves,
But deep enough, alas! none ever mines.
And we have been on many thousand lines,
And we have shown, on each, spirit and power;
But hardly have we, for one little hour,
Been on our own line, have we been ourselves--
Hardly had skill to utter one of all
The nameless feelings that course through our breast,
But they course on for ever unexpress'd.
And long we try in vain to speak and act
Our hidden self, and what we say and do
Is eloquent, is well--but 't#is not true!
And then we will no more be rack'd
With inward striving, and demand
Of all the thousand nothings of the hour
Their stupefying power;
Ah yes, and they benumb us at our call!
Yet still, from time to time, vague and forlorn,
From the soul's subterranean depth upborne
As from an infinitely distant land,
Come airs, and floating echoes, and convey
A melancholy into all our day.
Only--but this is rare--
When a belov{'e}d hand is laid in ours,
When, jaded with the rush and glare
Of the interminable hours,
Our eyes can in another's eyes read clear,
When our world-deafen'd ear
Is by the tones of a loved voice caress'd--
A bolt is shot back somewhere in our breast,
And a lost pulse of feeling stirs again.
The eye sinks inward, and the heart lies plain,
And what we mean, we say, and what we would, we know.
A man becomes aware of his life's flow,
And hears its winding murmur; and he sees
The meadows where it glides, the sun, the breeze.

And there arrives a lull in the hot race
Wherein he doth for ever chase
That flying and elusive shadow, rest.
An air of coolness plays upon his face,
And an unwonted calm pervades his breast.
And then he thinks he knows
The hills where his life rose,
And the sea where it goes.

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Philippians 1:9-10

love wash over a multitude of things
make us whole.

I have seen with my two eyes, the glory of God.
I have seen hearts transformed and lives changed because of the salvation that's offered through Him.

I am stubborn, emotional, demanding, independent. I'm a fighter, a crier, I can be compassionate, selfish and lazy. And lately, I've been learning a lot.

I have had my life set on fire by Him and then seasons where I am frozen in a spot I can't seem to get away from. The last few months have been a frozen season. I'm starting to worry that I look more like the world than I do the savior of my soul. A good friend of mine always says, "I'm a Christian, but that doesn't mean I act like I'm perfect or even try to be." This has always rubbed me the wrong way when he says it. I wonder if I spent most of my life trying to be perfect. Actually, I know I've spent most of my life striving for perfection. Straight As in high school (except for math of course), student government, being well liked by teachers and striving to get approval from my parents. I've always had lots of friends, and too many group activities to occupy my time.

At 21 and 8 months, I am tired. I told my mom last week that I'm not going to graduate school next year. I honestly cant even put forth the effort it takes to apply. I am so so so done. I love school. I want to be a teacher. I used to think if anything would hold me back from grad school it would be my work. I love those kids with all of me. But lately, I haven't even enjoyed my time there. I'm tired, I'm emotionally check out of all of it. And whatever I do next, I want to do with all of me. One thing, with all of me. I regret the past four years- not being able to give school my all. Today I took a midterm and enjoyed every minute of it. I love my major. I love analyzing literature and spending hours talking about it. It is my favorite. And the next time I make an attempt at chasing a degree, I'm going to do it with all of me.

I'm in love with 27 teenagers, and right now, they take priority over school. I spend the 50 minute class periods thinking about what I will do when I get to work before I write down anything that the professor says. I don't regret my time with them. And right now, I want to give them my all. I'm so divided at the moment on all of that.

All of that above summary to say that i'm tired and I want out. I'm so spiritually hungry lately that all I want to do is sit next to someone who has a guitar and will sing with me. I want to close my eyes and worship for hours. for days. to talk to him about everything that is going on that I don't understand. I just spent the last 2 paragraphs defending what I'm doing with my life. I dont need to defend it. I dont need to justify my actions. I am not spending enough time with God. And I'm not measuring on what some stupid book or church tells me, I'm measuring this on the sheer fact that: i'm lonely, sad and unhappy. I'm tired and burnt out and unmotivated. I don't want to be anywhere at anytime. I am perfectly content laying here under my hippie blanket blaring brandon heath.

I want someone who will talk to me about what is going on. Someone that will go deeper than what happened last weekend, and not deeper into the depression that is the world, but deeper into what God has already done about it. I want conversations like the ones I have with Michele on Friday afternoon. Ones that when I leave, I am fired up and passionate about what God is doing and is going to do. The life I was learning how to unpack and stop compartmentalizing is no so separated. I feel this way with these people, and this way with these people. These ones understand me, these ones don't...

I want validation from you. I want to be so full that I can't help but overflow. I dont want to offer what I have. What I have SUCKS. I am so parched for the spirit, so parched for any moisture you have to offer my dry lips...that's what i want. I want to enjoy the rocking of the boat that you're doing. I want to love the time we spend together like this. I want to want to spend time with you. I want to enjoy alone time, and have that alone time build me up instead of break me down. I want everything that you have to offer and I don't want it to make me feel guilty. I want to be the bold woman of you that I am when I'm in China. That I am in XA. That I am when I am so full and overflowing. I want to offer truth and not emotions. I want to offer out of excess, not out of left overs. I want the people I love and care about to see YOU in me. I want to be different than the world. I want people to look at me and say, "what's different about her?" and have the answer be that I have an amazing relationship (real relationship) with you.

I want to be what my life verse says, "live a lovers life, circumspect and exemplary..." that "your love will overflow more and more and that you will keep growing in knowledge and understanding. For I want you to understand what REALLY matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ's return." Philippians 1:9-10

That's what I want my life to look like.

nothing.

I want you to love me for me
I don't want this love to develop out of dependency
What can I do for you
What do you know about me
nothing.
we will be nothing.

If I am going to be alone
Please tell me, so I can stay at home.
I'd rather sit and hide
than stand there fake, by your side.

I want you to see me, see through me.
See not what I can do for you
but who I can be when I'm with you.

Notice that I love to sit and be
sit and be just you and me
you will know that I love to sing and play with your hair
and guess what you'd order out of that there
magazine.

but don't worry:
I wont push you beyond your limits
You don't have to get to know me,
I'll just smile and be your therapist,
your counselor, your best friend,
the person you text when you need an end.
I wont pretend to be anything more than
nothing.
we will be nothing.

and when you ask me what is wrong I will say:
nothing, it's nothing.

Monday, February 8, 2010

Stand In

a painted smile on my face
offering you simple grace
i am always out of place
but for you
i'm just a stand in

number four in your top ten
you ask me, "will i love again"
no one really ever wins
but for you
i'm just a stand in

ive held your hand
and we've walked in the sand
i would've given you forever... and
even for you
i'm just a stand in

problems you have
your wish is my command
after all
i am YOUR stand in

worthy of love
only in a spiritual sense
wow, i must be really dense
to continue on this cycle
because for all of you
i'm a stand in

depressed, i'm not
i just happen to be caught
in this same ol' dull routine
where i put up this thick screen
a filter where I let some pass through
see my heart, oh no not you...
because for you,
I'm just a stand in.
-kalinmae 02/10

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

sometimes my heart sings along to the words I can't say to you:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEEVZ0cZExA

Sometimes love comes around (love comes around, love comes around)
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
Sometimes love comes around
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
...
so you gotta take the good, the bad,happy and the sad
but will you bring the better future then I had in the past
cause I don't want to make the same mistakes I did
Idon't wanna fall back on my face again
woah, woah
I'll admit it, I was scared to answer loves call
woah, woah
and if it hits, better make it worth the fall

(When it comes around)

Sometimes love comes around (love comes around, love comes around)
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
Sometimes love comes around (comes around)
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWFPjfFNlTk

Damn, I mean, I just keep thinkin' about you
I mean, I wanna move on but I can't move on
It's like you got some kinda hold on me and, man I don't know
But I'ma go ahead and talk about it, listen

I'm sittin' lookin' out the window like damn
Tryna fix this situation that's at hand
You're still runnin' through my mind
When I'm knowin' that you shouldn't be
Me all on your mind and I'm knowin' that it couldn't be

'Cause you ain't called and I ain't even appalled
I still got a lotta pain, I ain't dealt wit it all
I been runnin' 'round with other chicks, I'm single and they lovin' it
I'm likin' it but I just want the one that I was in love with

That's not the end of it, I'm tryna let you go
I can't get a grip of it is what I'm tryna let you know
You got a hold or some kinda control of me
I don't know what it is but I gotta get you gone from me

I'm workin' at it and it ain't gettin' no better
Just tryna be like, yeah, forget it, whatever
Instead of starin' out this glass, lookin' at this bad weather
Damn, I gotta pull myself together 'cause

When I'm with somebody, all I think 'bout is you
When I'm all alone, that's all I wanna do
I miss the smilin' faces in my Sidekick, outta town visits
All the time we spent together
Makes it hard to get you outta my system

And you know what you do to me, do to me
You don't even understand, damn
And you know what you do to me, do to me
It's so hard to get you outta my system

I'm too attached, my heart won't let me fall back
I got it bad, that's what you can call that
And when I see you in the streets, that's the worse for me
Used to love the little things you did, that's what works for me

It's too major, don't see you in my pager
Know what you doin', where you at or can I see you later?
The fellas tellin' me, Just let her go, Bow
Believe me, I'm tryin', man, I just don't know how

I be in all the top spots, leavin' with the hot shots
Knowin' they just want me 'cause I'm in the top spot
That's not poppin' and my brain ain't stoppin'
Thinkin' who she with or where she goin', is she club hoppin'?

I never had this kind of problem in my life
This is my first time dealin' with this kind of fight
It's every night and every flight and every time you in my sight
Damn, this ain't even right 'cause

When I'm with somebody, all I think 'bout is you
When I'm all alone, that's all I wanna do
I miss the smilin' faces in my Sidekick, outta town visits
All the time we spent together
Makes it hard to get you outta my system

And you know what you do to me, do to me
You don't even understand, damn
And you know what you do to me, do to me
It's so hard to get you outta my system

Is it wrong for me to feel this way?
You been runnin' through my mind all day, can you feel me?
I been tryna get you off my mind
But I can't after all this time, that's what kills me

Is it wrong for me to feel this way?
You been runnin' through my mind all day, can you feel me?
I been tryna get you off my mind
But I can't after all this time and it kills me

When I'm with somebody, all I think 'bout is you
When I'm all alone, that's all I wanna do
I miss the smilin' faces in my Sidekick, outta town visits
All the time we spent together
Makes it hard to get you outta my system

And you know what you do to me, do to me
You don't even understand, damn
And you know what you do to me, do to me
It's so hard to get you outta my system

I remember everything that me and you talked about
Me and you had our whole life planned out together
And if I could, I would turn back the hands of time
And correct all my mistakes that I ever did

But now I guess I gotta move on, right?
It's still hard and I still love you to this day
Peace
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IlZWz-nA77Y
Here you are now
Fresh from your war
Back from the edge of time
And all that you were,
Stripped to the bone
I thought you­'d want to know

That when you feel the world is crashing
All around your feet
Come running headlong into my arms
Breathless
I'll never judge you
I can only love you
Come now running headlong
Into my arms
Breathless

Lay down your guns
Too weak to run
Nothing can harm you here
Your precious heart
Broken and scarred
Somehow you made it through
I only ask that you won't go again


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mULa8WxTa4


Something always brings me back to you.
It never takes too long.
No matter what I say or do I'll still feel you here 'til the moment I'm gone.

You hold me without touch.
You keep me without chains.
I never wanted anything so much than to drown in your love and not feel your reign.

Set me free, leave me be. I don't want to fall another moment into your gravity.
Here I am and I stand so tall, just the way I'm supposed to be.
But you're on to me and all over me.

You loved me 'cause I'm fragile.
When I thought that I was strong.
But you touch me for a little while and all my fragile strength is gone.

I live here on my knees as I try to make you see that you're everything I think I need here on
The ground.
But you're neither friend nor foe though I can't seem to let you go.
The one thing that I still know is that you're keeping me down


Today I had the most amazing day at work. Despite 3 piles of throw-up made by a 6 year old that I mopped up, stressful interviews, an intense keystone meeting, a lead staff training, class from 8-2:30 and work til 9. I left smiling. I am so blessed by You. I live in a country where I can pursue higher education. I work at a place where the people I work with are more like a family ( i love my kids more than anything), and I get to watch them grow and learn to be young adults. My life is pretty much beautiful. Here is a favorite quote of mine that a friend sent me a few weeks ago...

Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well.- Van Gogh

...so true.

1If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,but have not love, I gain nothing. - 1 Corinthians 13:1-3

that's all for tonight.
-kalinmae

Monday, February 1, 2010

repeat...

I had an interesting weekend. Now it's time for the Bachelor (team Tennley all the way) and chocolate ice cream with my girls. This song has been on repeat the last few days in my car. I love it when I song can explain everything you feel...


Heaven Sent lyrics

Songwriters: Farmer, Jason; Cole, Keyshia; Francis, Alex;

Sent from heaven
Sent from heaven

Now you can wait your whole life wonderin'
When it's gonna come or where it's been
You may have got your heart broken
A few times in the past

Never last strong as it used to
It don't feel as good as it used to before
And all the things you used to say
Things you used to do went right out the door

Ooh, no more will you be the one
That's what you tell everyone around you
But you know they've heard it all before
What more can you say

When your love won't let you walk away
And you can't help who you love
And you find yourself givin' it all away
When you think you're in love, ooh 'cuz

I wanna be the one who you believe
In your heart is sent from, sent from heaven
And there's a piece of me who leaves when you're gone
Because you're sent from, sent from heaven

I wanna be the one who you believe
In your heart is sent from, sent from heaven
And there's a piece of me who leaves when you're gone
Because you're sent from, sent from heaven

Now you can wait your whole life tryna change
What it is from what has been
You may have put your whole life into a man
Lovin' what you thought it could've been

Don't wanna swing a change
When you don't feel as good as you used to before
And everything you used to say
Everything you used to do cleared right out the door

Ooh, no more will you be the one
That's what you tell everyone around you
But you know they've heard it all before
What more can you say

When your love won't let you walk away
And it can't help all your love
And you find yourself givin' it all away
When you think you're in love 'cuz I wanna be

I wanna be the one who you believe
In your heart is sent from, sent from heaven
There's a piece of me who leaves when you're gone
Because you're sent from, sent from heaven

I wanna be the one who you believe
In your heart is sent from, sent from heaven
There's a piece of me who leaves when you're gone
Because you're sent from, sent from heaven

Everybody say I wanna be the one you love
I wanna be sent from heaven
Everybody say I wanna be the one you trust
I wanna be sent from heaven

Everybody say I wanna be the one you need
I wanna be sent from heaven
Everybody say, I wanna be the one, oh
I wanna be the one sent from heaven

I wanna be the one who you believe
In your heart is sent from, sent from heaven
There's a piece of me who leaves when you're gone
Because you're sent from, sent from heaven

I wanna be the one